Jacob Lawrence, The Lovers (1946)

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May 16, 2007:

At heart she's a mistrustful person. You could argue that she's projecting her own tendencies onto others, but that's a different essay. She doesn't believe people will be there for her and when she feels let down or threatened or challenged she pulls away defensively. It often appears petulant but at its core it's distrust.

I've tended to experience it as punishment. That is, withdrawal of affection. So that the "ups and downs" which I cited as the source of that breakup are not so much her emotional highs and lows but rather this dynamic of closeness and withdrawal which remains so destructive for me.

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