February 22, 2017:

"You can do anything you want, but I'm going to do xyz." Where the context is, I intend to maximize my personal vacation time.

Lack of generosity. It's not a shared experience. It's her experience, and if you're in the way, too bad for you. Nevermind that you paid for her flight.

She agrees to meet and leaves you waiting. She changes plans arbitrarily without discussion. You have to agree to her route on her schedule or she's grim-faced and curt. She cancels on something important to you because she wants to spend the evening packing, instead of handling that in the afternoon.

It's been a mixed experience, partly wonderful, partly stressful, not entirely happy. It's not clear you'll do this again.